Between your day-to-day tasks, tight deadlines, worrying about money, and worrying about your kids, stress happens. A certain amount of stress is considered normal and inevitable - it’s part of the human condition. BUT a certain amount is the key phrase here.
Stress takes a serious toll on all of us. It impacts mood, memory, the ability to focus, and it gets in the way of getting a good night’s sleep. Being stressed is exhausting! And doesn’t it seem like stress is the cause of all health problems? Well, that’s because it kind of is. You go to the doctor because you’re getting bad headaches and they attribute them to stress. Weight gain? Stress. High blood pressure? Stress. And as if it wasn’t causing enough problems, stress can have a big impact on your sex life, too.
Let’s Talk About Sex, Ba-by
We don’t have to tell you that sex is awesome. But did you also know that it’s really good for you? Yep, that’s right! The perks of sex extend beyond the bedroom. The benefits range from lowering your risk of cancer and heart attacks, reducing anxiety, strengthening your immune system and promoting better sleep. Now you’re thinking, ‘Sweet! Let’s get it on!’
But what if it’s not that easy? What if you “don’t have time” or you’re just not feelin’ it? This is a reality for so many people.
Stress causes a lot of that “not feelin’ it” feeling. When you’re stressed out, your body releases hormones like cortisol and epinephrine and your body goes into fight-or-flight mode. At that point, your body is just trying to survive, not procreate. And when your body is producing excess cortisol, it can lower your libido and totally throw off your menstrual cycle, which likely won’t put you in the mood, either. Worse yet, stress can make it more difficult to orgasm and can prevent a person from climaxing at all.
There’s nothing quite like creating a mental to-do list to rip you out of the moment… but we’ve all been there before. For women, especially, the brain is your biggest sex organ. So if your mind is racing and you are distracted during sex, it is going to be far less enjoyable and nearly impossible to orgasm. If you are able to set your to-do’s aside, slow down, and relax, sex is going to be a million times more pleasurable. And afterward, you’ll feel much better because sex is a natural stress reliever. “I always feel so anxious mid-orgasm.” - said no one ever.
The Dreaded Dry Spell
Chronic stress can also have an impact on your metabolism, causing changes in your body like weight fluctuations. It can be tough to maintain a positive body image when your body is constantly changing, which lowers the likelihood that you’ll initiate sex with your partner. Not having sex can create tension between you and your partner, as it is so crucial in relationships and facilitates bonding and feelings of intimacy with your partner.
Okay, before you get stressed out about being stressed out, let’s talk about what you can do.
Here’s the Good News!
When it comes to fighting stress, exercise is a saving grace. Participating in regular exercise will produce your brain's feel-good neurotransmitters, endorphins, and put a pep in your step. Bonus points if you exercise outside and get that Vitamin D. And while we love a good sweat sesh, it’s not all about heart-pumping cardio. Yoga and mediation are also great ways to lower stress levels, because these activities activate the parasympathetic nervous system (relaxation response) and creates a calm and relaxed mind.
Take a chill pill! Literally. You deserve to feel your best and that includes having great sex. And since that’s easier said than done, we created Stress Fighter.
And finally - the most fun stress-busting tip of all: Laughter! They say laughter is the best medicine, and it’s true. Laughing strengthens your immune system, boosts your mood, and protects you from the damaging effects of stress. Not to mention, sharing a good laugh can bring us closer together, so it’s a great way to feel more bonded to your partner every day!
Feel like you’ve tried everything, but stress is still having a negative impact on your life? We highly suggest you seek out help from a doctor or speak with a therapist. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and can be extremely effective at treating stress, anxiety and depression.